As with any new marriage, the beginning was splendid. They had the world was in the palm of their hands. This was the love affair of a lifetime! Prince William was soon born to the happy couple. Then Prince Harry. Then came life – real life with its challenges and issues.
Over time, it became apparent that what might have appeared to be a beautiful dream life from the outside was slowly becoming a nightmare. The “happily ever after” part of the story that so many hoped for was not to be. After years of trying to keep it together, the couple finally acknowledged what so many had suspected – the marriage was over. They soon joined the population of those divorced with kids.
What could have caused such a promising marriage to end? It couldn’t have been money problems – that we know. Afterall, they’re royalty. There are so many things we could point out but I think it’ll all lead to the phrase that’s written on so many divorce decrees – irreconcilable differences. The marriage ended sadly. And as we know, not too long afterward – in August 1997 – Diana’s life ended in tragedy.
Today, we witnessed another magical wedding ceremony. Prince William took to himself a beautiful bride. Catherine Middleton became Catherine, Duchess of Cambridge. Thousands lined the streets to celebrate with the happy couple. It’s estimated that approximately 2 billion people all over the world tuned in by television and the internet to witness the once in a generation event.
I woke up my wife and twelve year old daughter to watch it. It was a memorable family bonding moment. I’m sure that 20, 30, 50 years from now, we’ll all recall just where we were when we saw the wedding. There was something quite fascinating about it.
The story of Charles and Diana has already been told. Now the world will watch while William and Catherine write their own. I hope that you join me in wishing them the very best in everything – good health, prosperity, peace and the love affair of a lifetime. Oh and also kids – wonderful, beautiful kids.
Now here’s a lesson for you and me as we observe the lives of the British royal family. Statistically, it’s proven that approximately 50% of first marriages fail. With these two couples – one failed. Let’s hope that the second one stands the test of time. But the thing is, we never can be quite 100% sure of what will happen. Who knows the future?
I’m a firm believer in the institution of marriage. I recall going to my grandparent’s 50th wedding anniversary as a child. Last month, my parents celebrated their 47th. I believe the words “till death do us part” are sacred and should not be said lightly. Having said all this, guess what? I went through a divorce. When I got married in 1996, that was the absolute last thing on my mind. I shared much of my experience in The Story Behind The Upbeat Dad. It’s not something I planned. But you know what? Life happened and I found myself five years later wondering what went wrong.
That marriage produced a child – a daughter, who was three at the time. So the divorce opened a new chapter in my life – parenting as a divorcee. It’s not quite something that you prepare for. Divorce happens so you learn to deal with being a parent with the changed situation.
Now I’m happily remarried and my daughter – now twelve – lives with us. We have a son who turns nine months old next week. This new marriage really does seem like the love affair of a lifetime and I couldn’t be happier. I wrote The Story of My Blended Family to tell how it all came together. I think that this is the “happily ever after” story that I dreamed about – and that my wife dreamed about as well.
In life, we do not know just what the future holds. When we get married, two people become one. How do you successfully fuse two separate hearts and minds? It’s not quite as simple as it might seem. A strong marriage takes work.
Have a great day!
The Upbeat Dad