Thursday, July 7, 2011

What Women Should Know When Dating Single and Divorced Dads


I recently received an email from a female reader seeking my input on a situation that she's dealing with. She's a single woman without kids who's dating a divorced dad with a daughter. She has some real concerns about how the relationship is going and wanted to hear from my perspective the true dynamics of what she's experiencing. 


Let me first say that I'm not a relationship expert. I'm not a psychologist or therapist. I’m nothing more than a dad who has walked an interesting path on my way to raising two wonderful kids. I’ve had some real life experiences regarding this topic and I've learned somehow to navigate my way through the circumstances. Now I have the privilege of sharing a bit of what I’ve learned on this blog.

As you may know, I'm a happily married father. You might also know that my first marriage didn't quite work out as I'd hoped. That relationship produced a daughter who was 3 at the time that the divorce took place. I got remarried 2 1/2 years ago and we now have a son who just turned 11 months old this week. You can read The Story of My Blended Family by The Upbeat Dad to learn how it all came together. 

Today we have a blended family of four. Not long ago, I had a household of 2 - just my daughter and me. I was a single, self-employed, full-time dad with a growing, impressionable daughter. I desired to be in a relationship that could lead to marriage but I was in no rush to do so because I knew the devastation that can occur when marriages don't quite work out. I'd rather be single for the rest of my life than to get married and end up going through another divorce. It was that painful of an experience. 

My divorce ended 9 years ago and as I mentioned, I got married just over 2 years ago. So for 7 years I was a single dad. Throughout that time I dated a bit and I learned a thing or two about the unique issues that one encounters dating as a single dad. I wrote Dating 101 For The Divorced Dad to share my thoughts on the "do's and don'ts" of this process. 


Now that I've given that background on the journey I've taken, let me share with you a bit of what I conveyed in my response to the woman who emailed me. This applies more to those who date loving, responsible fathers. By this I mean that it does not apply to those who date men who have children and essentially disregard them as they enter new relationships. These are not the type of dads I'm talking about here. I'm referring to dads who make their kids a priority and try their best to balance being dads while building new relationships.

Here are some thoughts and tips that can help women build successful relationships with these men:

     1.     Avoid the rebound: Men who are just coming out of a relationship – whether by divorce or other means – are generally not emotionally ready to begin healthy, new relationships. It may be simpler to befriend one going through such a transition, giving him time to heal, and later on developing a relationship. More often than not, the more intense a relationship is with a newly divorced man, the less likely it is to succeed.

      When you add the father factor to this scenario it gets more complicated because, in a sense, he could be trying to replace his ex and having a pseudo-family. All this can be harmful in the long run because until he’s healed and whole, the comparison to his former relationship will remain for quite a while. When he’s moved on from that relationship, he can better assess the quality of a new one.

      2.     Take time to know him: Men are typically not the type to open up and share their wounds and scars. So it’s important to take things slow and get to know the man behind the mask. Don’t be in too much of a rush to meet his kids – get to know him first. Even if he wants to get the kids involved in your life, try to delay this process.

      Remember that the man isn’t the only one affected by the divorce – the kids are too. When someone new comes into the picture, they can easily resent that person because they view her as a replacement for their mom in their dad’s life. Get to know him for who he is. The other stuff comes in time.

     3.     Give him time to balance being a dad and a date: For many men, the experience of dating while being dads is very new. They’ve gone from simply focusing on their household and careers to now also focusing on a new relationship. I know that for me, it wasn’t easy. Being a full-time dad was my responsibility.

   


      When I dated, that was the exception – not the rule. I had to learn to make someone feel special while having my primary focus on my daughter. I couldn’t allow her to feel as if a new love in my life means she’s now on the backburner, as the expression goes.

      4.     Avoid the extremes when meeting the kids: When a dad has been convinced that a new love is a “keeper”, inevitably he will introduce her to his kids. There are two extremes that one should avoid. These are: trying too much to impress them; and becoming their competitors.

      Most women who date a dad would like to know that their kids like them. Some go to great lengths to sway the kids towards them. So they buy them gifts, take them shopping and really stretch the limits trying to impress them. In their view, by doing this, they’ll win the kids over and consequently, make it easier for a family to be formed.

This approach can be harmful in the long run. First, kids are smarter than we think. They’re not easily swayed. Their affection is not easily won – and it certainly cannot be bought. They might readily accept the gifts but might not so readily accept the new person.

The other extreme is becoming the kids’ competitors. Some women feel as if the man has a choice – either the kids or them. So instead of being open and warm, they become withdrawn and cold as they meet the kids. Some might feel that they’ve already won his heart so there’s no need to impress the kids.

This can be more harmful than I could describe here. His kids are his own. His blood literally runs through their veins. They are not to be competed with; instead, they should be embraced and honored for who they are. Any other approach generally leads to an unfavorable outcome.
A colleague of mine, Christina McGhee introduced me to the term, bonus kids, instead of step kids. How cool is that? You’ve got the man of your dreams and his kids are a bonus. This approach in more likely to make a favorable impression than the divisive competitor approach.

5.     Be true to yourself: This final point, in my view, is the most important of them all. Be true to who you are. You are not and could not ever be like his ex – no matter what her qualities may have been. Particularly when a man isn’t fully healed from his former relationship, he often seeks the good qualities in his ex in a new person.


      Just be who you are and if the relationship works, that’s great. If it doesn’t, at least you didn’t lose yourself in the process. When it comes to meeting the kids, again, be who you are. You’re not their biological mother – you can never be. But you can win their love, respect and admiration by genuinely caring for them and making them feel special. I believe it was Shakespeare who wrote, “To thine own self be true.” That statement is the strongest point I could make in this post.

      I hope that these tips have been helpful. Dating a divorced or a single dad isn’t such a simple process. But with tips such as those I’ve shared here, as well as many more, you can navigate your way to building a successful relationship. My wife was simply remarkable in the way she handled our dating experience. I could have even asked her to write this post from her perspective because she did a masterful job at just being true to herself, while becoming a part of my life. She and my daughter have developed such a close bond that, unless you knew otherwise, you’d think that they were biological mother and child. That’s been a joy to behold.

      In my view, kids are a joy and a treasure. Marriages come and go but kids are for keeps. When we as adults get into new relationships, if we take the proper approach to consider them first, then things generally work out fine. If you’re a woman who is dating or is considering dating a single or divorced dad, I wish you the very best. Just be yourself and if the relationship works out, that’s great. If it doesn’t, life goes on. In time, good things come to those who wait. It took 5 years after my divorce for me to meet my wife and 2 years later we got married. It’s come together just fine and it’s really as a result of the tips I shared here.

      As always, I welcome your feedback in the Comments section here on the blog. Do share this post with those who you feel would benefit. Life is much better when we share positive messages with each other. That’s what it’s all about.


      Do enjoy your day.



The Upbeat Dad



  

67 comments:

  1. This has hit home for me. My boyfriend and I have a 10 year age difference with me being the younger of the 2. He has 1 biological child from a previous marriage and one adopted son. It took me awhile to adjust to this life since I have never been married or have any children of my own. We have been together for a year and have had many family gatherings in which I was able to spend time with the children. This kind of relationship does work, although I thought it wouldn't. Honesty and communication has been the 2 key factors.

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  2. Women who believe marriage is for keeps should RUN away from men like this. A divorced dad will never value and honor their wife unless she bends over backwards adjusting to his life. Some women don't mind doing this - others take the view that a relationship should be reciprocal. She gives more to the relationship than he ever can! You heard it from the man himself - "You’re not their biological mother – you can never be"... "I had to learn to make someone feel special while having my primary focus on my daughter."...the fact is, if these men valued their second wives the wives would naturally feel special (it wouldn't be work.) These kind of men have too much baggage and take the fun out of dating. No woman wants to grow up, dream of her future husband, and - oh wait - that person has another wife hanging around in the picture. The romance screeches to a halt. Sorry boys, but blogs like this are frustrating because you are the guys who ruined your marriages, put your kids in hurtful environments by your irresponsibility...don't expect the new woman to pick up the slack. You should be asking what she might expect of *you* (she may know a thing or two more than you about how to make a relationship actually work.)

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    1. WOW! your reply totally smacks of stupidity. 1st off.. who says the wife not the one who broke the relationship in the 1st place?

      Your very last line indicates that you cannot be rationed with. Going around blaming all single dads as the cause for the marriage breaking down in the 1st place means that you as the poster, should consider there are other reasons why couples split. Unless all your partners cheated on you? FYI - women cheat too...

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    2. Men who believe marriage is for keeps should RUN away from women like Anonymous on 10/10. She's so selfish that she believes she should come before someone's child. She doesn't understand that children always come first. She refers to a responsible man's duties as "baggage" and seems to think life should always be "fun". She needs someone else to make her "feel special" and has such low self esteem that she can't bear ever being compared to another woman. Evidently she spends a lot of time comparing herself to other women and comes up short. And (if you can believe anyone could be so ignorant) she believes divorce is always the man's fault even though 70% of divorces are initiated by women. She doesn't think much of men, because she believes they all need a woman to "pick up the slack", although she apparently doesn't believe in doing anything for her spouse, since she focuses on "what she might expect" of her potential husband.

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    3. Heh, strange to say, I think these two extreme views of the situation are actually both valid.

      ABSOLUTELY, the woman will be burdened by a divorced dad's baggage. I don't think you'd find too many people who aspire to marrying a man who already made a vow to spend their life with someone else and have a human being to represent that love to boot (and yes, it matters that the man prioritizes that representation of that love). A good test would be to look at your daughters and ask yourself if that's what you'd want for her.

      No, women are not selfish for wanting to build a life with a man who is first and foremost their partner and not someone else's (believe me, the co-parent's decisions WILL partly define your own). A case could be made for the idea that women who are in a relationship with a divorced dad doesn't have the self-esteem to find someone better.

      That said, there is also something to be said about being embraced as part of a family, a far more difficult feat than building your own. Love comes in lots of ways (I know, cheesy...but still true!) sometimes that way involves a difficult path. Divorced dads can be a better partner in that they may have learned from their previous relationship and the fact that they are responsible enough to want to be part of their child's life is a sign of good character. For women who can't have children, the kid is a blessing. For the more independent women, these families can be ideal as they would have more freedom to do their own thing when he's off being a dad. Finally, if everything one hoped for in a marriage/family comes ready-out-of-the-package so to speak, it would be a mark of stubborness and inflexibility to be unable to accept it simply because it doesn't arrive in the way one wanted it to.

      I think what ultimately matters is that all parties involved know what they're going in for and that people are only people. Women need to understand what going into such a relationship entails and not throw fits when they're not prioritized. Men need to respect both the women who decide it's not for them and those who decide it is a good lifestyle for them.

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    4. I don't know - my parents, who are still together, love each other so much, and my siblings and I are a product of that love, but we kids definitely did not come first growing up or now. I think divorced parents use the kids as excuses to stay in touch way too often. I think any women coming into this situation needs to be wary of the excuses divorced dads make in regards to the child. "But I'm being a good dad!" A good dad models a healthy relationship with his significant other by prioritizing it. I think the first poster directed her comments to women who have never been through a divorce and would never want that in their lives nor would they understand the dynamics surrounding that, understandably so. I don't think that is selfish at all.

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    5. Original poster here...thank you for the comments that showed some understanding of my perspective. I just want to point out that my comments also hold true for my opinions of single moms...I don't believe in divorce. Usually there is a fundamental break-down of a marriage before the divorce, and while blame cannot always be attributed 50/50, I am sure 70% of women did not necessarily cause the break-down of their marriages. Regardless, at a certain point both partners agree to throw in the towel, and in my opinion, this shows a weakness in character that can be attributed to at least one of the partners. Good luck out there.

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  3. "Marriages come and go but kids are for keeps." (Really? Don't the kids grow up and leave and make families of their own? Isn't the wife supposed to still be around? Wouldn't your kid want their mommy to still be in the picture??)

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    1. Well said! Isn't marriage meaning planning to spend your life with your partner---- your partner is your No. 1 priority????? ( not the kids from a previous marriage!)

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  4. Yeah marriages come and go...says it all really.

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    1. You nailed it. That line is a telling stunner: the disposable, replacement part-ner ...

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  5. Do you believe in love at first sight. The best and most beautiful things in the world can't be seen, nor touched, but are felt in the heart.
    dating advice

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  6. Love at first sight quickly diminishes when an ex-wife is hanging around.

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  7. I think the relationship may work if the woman is understanding and is willing to compromise with the issues that will eventually develop. She should be very much in love with the man as well.
    Overall, it would be ideal for a single father to date a single mother.

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  8. Divorced dads need to get in touch with each other, find a way to communicate with each other and help each other through some difficult days that you might be up against. Such as the ignorance and prejudice of people who don't want fathers to have help. Sometimes they act like gatekeepers, censoring information inappropriately.

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  9. Thank you for the post - I will be mindful of these things while i'm hitting the town! :)

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  10. Hi Rodrick,
    I loved reading this piece! Well written! :)

    Wilson Peter
    matchmaker Chicago Illinois
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  11. Thank you for this. I think sometimes you meet someone wonderful and they have kids. An ex in the picture doesn't mean the new gf or wife is less important also doesn't mean a woman dating a single dad has low self esteem. I would love to hear your wife's account of dating a single dad and her advice and perspective.

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    1. I would also love to hear your wife's account. It's rare to hear stories from women who have successfully navigated the creation of a blended family.

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  12. I have beeing seeing my partner for 6 months now. He is divorced, with 2 children. I have no children and have never been married. His marriage was well and truly over before we met but it has been a very acrimonious divorce. I have not met the children yet. We thought it best to wait and make sure we are on solid ground together before adding them to the mix. We agreed that after 6 months the introduction between me and the kids would happen.

    He is a devoted Dad and I know how difficult it has been for the kids during the divorce. They are 9(girl) and 6(boy).
    Does anyone have any suggestions of activites or environment for the first meeting? I dont want them to feel as if I am there to replace anyone, or that the day is all about me. I want them to feel like the day is all about them, and I am just someone they can have fun with while getting to know.

    Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

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  13. Hi there.

    I would like to get some opinions on my situation.

    I am dating a newly divorced guy with a 3 year old son. We are seeing each other for almost 2 years now, he divorced just recently (and left her wife more than 1/2 year ago). Yes, I am the main reason he got divorced. I will not go deeply in this situation, still it is not favorable to me, so.. :)

    1. He is still attached to his wife. She got a job only 3 week ago, so he was (still is) paying for everything for her (and his son, naturally). They agreed in the divorce papers that he will pay a loan for the house for one year (he gave the house to her), after that only alimony (and, of course, split other expences for the kid). But he gives her money, and a lot of money, that she spends not on the kid (even her hair, manicure, pedicure, etc.). He offered to give her money on her new sitting room decor. This is too much I think, no?
    He texts her, calls her. She also. But when I am nor around. He says it's only about the kid, but I doubt it.. I do know, that she is in course of what he is doing, what is happening with him..
    2. Naturally, he tries to be the best dad for his kid. He spends as much time as possible with him. But I am not included (he says, it is because he is not ready, and they agreed with his former wife, not to get son introduced to me). So, I am left out (with thoughts, that I am not important enough to him, that he is not planning future with me). I "get" some time leftovers only.
    3. He says, that he wants to be with me, and he has feelings for me. It is obvious for me too. But he doesn't want to live with me, and is not introducing me to his life (family, kid also). And we are spending not enough time together. It would improve if we spend time with kid together, he wouldn't have to split his time.
    4. We fight about those things a lot. That's bad, but I am a normal woman, I want normal relationship - I want to know a kid, to start living together, to know that I am the only woman, he take care of, that he contacts his former wife only when something very important is to talk, and rarely, etc.). I did say that to him a lot of times.
    5. I have to mention that he visits his phychotherapist once a week. And he is getting better in his opinion (he is not that concerned that he takes something from his son, when he is with me; he stopped looking over his shoulder, when walking with me; etc.).

    What should I do? He says I should wait, and everything will fall to it's places. I am not a woman-rag... Should I clench my teeth and wait for this to happen? But I have waited so long, passed so many s*it.
    Thanks.

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  14. Run from a man who will cheat on his wife. He will cheat on you too. Don't waste your best years on this kind of man.

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  15. Even if you’ve never sweated through a Dolce & Gabbana bustier on a neon-lighted dance floor somewhere deep into a fifth or sixth shot of Grey Goose, you have surely, by virtue of living, absorbed the message of Beyoncé’s revenge-as-empowerment anthem, “Single Ladies (Put a Ring on It).” The Desire System

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  16. I have a question - Just read your post. Have been dating over a year now and the bond between us have been excellent, open, honest and mature.... Met his daughter (10) about 6 months ago, our bond too had become so unbelievably strong. Recently he started resenting me and saying he feels as if she enjoys me more and started excluding me from activities. It is her birthday this week, and I was crushed when i heard that he and his ex wife discussed getting her a bike. I do not feel part of this unit anymore and feel totally as an outsider. It would have been nice if we got her a gift together and build our unit instead, not? I am confused as to what is normal and what is not here.

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  17. If dating single dads is so effing awesome, then why do the ALL lie in their profiles and you are lucky if you find out on the first date???? Obviously, they know how much it sucks to date them and know they are no match and cannot give nearly as much to a relationship as people without baggage. First they lie about having kids to trap women and make them attached to them, and then when the women realize how much it sucks and how much crap they need to deal with bc that guy was too obsessed with sex that he reproduced with an effed up woman before and now has baggage….All the smart beautiful women like myself with advanced degrees and great looks should never ever ever even go there unless in their forties and desperate. Believe me, I work in education because I love kids and at first when I met my ex I was happy about the fact he has a kid. I was sooo naïve and thinking “yeah another cute human being in my life, what could be wrong with that???”. EVERYTHING!!!! No quality time, a crazy bi**** he was too addicted to having sex with in the past and then realized it’s not everything and you can’t deal with an effed up person your whole life because they give you sex, so they finally get a divorce and HAVE TO take the kid or else the kid would end up just as screwed up like mommy….and they call themselves so great and loving and giving….giving ONLY to their kids who are in this world as a result of their mistakes of getting involved with horrible people….either that or THEY cheated and got a divorce. Everyone can reproduce (unless infertile) and of course our instinct is to take care of the offspring. It is basic instinct and does not make single dads any better than other guys. The only difference is that single dads either cheated on their wives or were involved with effed up women who they finally had to leave when they grew up enough to realize that life is not all about sex and they got involved with some effed up person and most likely have messed up kids as a result. Then they look for childless women to knock them up because they know nobody with great looks and sane would marry then and call women selfish for not wanting their crap. How about you all go and log in right now and let the potential dates reading your profile know the truth that you are in fact daddies???!!!! What a great way to avoid selfish women, right? The problem is, you know no one would be interested except for desperate people without other options because you all know how much dating you sucks…. Be honest with your self and others and date people on your level with the same amount of baggage as you bring (SINGLE PARENTS SHOULD DATE SINGLE PARENTS OR NOT AT ALL)!!!!! Nobody on eharmony ever has kids if you look at the profiles. I now learned to be very blunt about that and I make sure I ask that question again before I even exchange a few text messages because there are too many liars out there and I’ve already wasted 4 months of my life dealing with a horrible relationship with a “wonderful, caring, and giving” single daddy. You are the entitled ones who deceive childless women and are looking for someone to dump your baggage on. STAY AWAY!!!!! As a womam who puts her man first, you will never be first and you will give your life away to fix and suffer from someone else’s past mistakes. You will be an outsider in your own home and if disrespected by kids, you will be blamed for not being “understanding enough”. Single dads can be horrible, soul-sucking people who only care about THEIR BLOOD and then spoiling their kids is a result of their own selfishness. It makes them feel wonderful and needed. Then they create kids as effed up and entitled as their effed up exes are and end up single. Then they wake up when their kids move on without giving too much crap about them and realize why they are so lonely. At that point they are too old and even less desirable in the dating pool.

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    1. Absolutely right. As a attractive girl with degrees, I was seeing a single dad for about 4 months. And it sucked! I had never had a priority in his life. And I was being blamed for not wanting to meet his child. All these stuff has nothing to do with my life!!!!!! His kid is not my thing! I do not have responsibility for that! And I want the amount of attention a girl would get in a normal relationship. And there is no wrong with that!!!!!!

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    2. Absolutely spot on! Single parents should date other single parents without partners. Eligible single women without kids do not want that quagmire aka second-hand life.

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  18. As long as their needs are met, kid’s moodiness and ridiculous spoiled behaviors should NEVER come first. Parents like that are the reason why the American society is so messed up and people so entitled. If you find a great woman who you know has enough common sense to care about your kid and is WILLING to TAKE ON YOUR BAGGAGE and is a great person who you want to marry, you need to put her first or else don’t be surprised when she’s gone…there are PLENTY OF guys without kids out there who would die to date her, ya know???? Plus, if you were honest enough to include the fact that you have kids in your dating profile, nobody will be hurt. Funny how you all put your kids first but are too embarrassed to admit their existence on your dating profiles right off the bat. OK, the venting was helpful and this is not about all single parents but just the ones who deceive potential partners and lie about not having kids in their profiles. Us, as you call us selfish bitches, are hurting when it is time to go too. You trap us without saying how bad the situation will be and then we have to leave heartbroken when he face the undeniable truth that we deserve better!!! Be honest from the beginning or stay away.

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  19. I would never stay in an exclusive relationship for nearly a year where you guys can't say you love each other. Something significant is wrong.

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    1. Totally correct -- simply well-stated.

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  20. Wow - there are some seriously biased comments in here. A lot of people have had bad experiences, but 'always' and 'never' are very specific words and in my opinion way too harsh for these scenarios in here. People of divorce aren't all bad. Single parents aren't all bad. They aren't all good either. It's no different than anything or anyone else in life. There are good and bad. If you can't handle weeding through the bad to find the good then you will never find it. If you are scorned and forever bitter because of bad experience, the good you seek will never come. First and foremost YOU should always come first. I don't mean this is a selfish way - I mean this as in if YOU are not happy and healthy you are in no shape to be taking care of a kid or a partner. Let's face it - life is stressful. Moreso now than ever. If you don't take care of yourself you will never be able to have a successful relationship because you will be too screwed up to do so. The same goes for parenting. I do not necessarily believe in 'forgive and forget'. Some things are unforgiveable. But you do need to move on with your life. If you continue to let your bad experiences run your life you are letting the bad people who put you through those situations win. Don't let them win. Don't let them change you into an angry and bitter person. Remember what happened, Learn from it and move on. Use that negative experience to make you a better person. This is easier said than done, I know from personal experience. I am damaged goods and my current had to deal with that baggage while I got myself back on track - back to being me. Most people going through a divorce/break-up experience this. That is part of why #1-3 of this blog are so important.

    Once you have healed, you should date whoever you care about - whether they be single, divorced, a parent, whatever. If you care for them and they care for you - it's worth a shot. It won't always work out. But you'll never find the right one if you aren't willing to try. And for the love of god do not date someone expecting them to change. Love and accept them for who they are, not who you want them to be. Expectations never last.

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    1. Dating a single parent is a package deal. If you don't think you're ready for that, discuss it with your partner. Chances are they don't expect much expect for you to be understanding. If you don't want to deal with that then don't bother. If you even think about giving an ultimatum, you will lose. In some ways the child will always come before you. They aren't only flesh and blood - they are in need. Your responsibility as a parent is to care for your child, provide for them, teach them. But in other areas of life you should come first. There are two sides to every story and there isn't always a "right side". You should get married knowing that it will last forever, not thinking that you can always get dovirced if it doesn't work out. But you don't need your spouse the way a child does. It is different. Yes, the spouse will be there after the child is grown and moved out, but they are still your child. They will always need you. And you will always need them. A common mistake from the parents tho it that Your child can't always be #1 - they need to learn value and struggle in order to appreciate. They need to learn to earn and deserve, not just be given. They need to learn sadness and disappointment, and how to recover from it. How to pick up the pieces and keep moving. If your child is always #1 they won't learn most of those things and they will probably end up being spoiled self centered little brats. Nobody wants to have 'that kid'. You can't give them everything nad you can't control them - you just have to guide them. You have to find a happy balance somewhere in the middle.

      Relatoionships don't work on their own. You have to make them work. That goes for all types of relationships in life. If both parties involved aren't willing to put in the effort it won't work. If both parties can't be understanding about the others strengths and weaknesses, desires and fears, it will not work. If you can't communitate with eachother without ending in an arguement it won't work. This has nothing to do with being divorced or being a parent. It has to do with being human. We are all flawed, but we are not all accepting - we are not all understanding.

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  21. i'm in love with him and crazy about his kids, it's a year next week, and no i love you. am i supposed to leave ?

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  22. YES. You can find another man out there who wants a family WITH you. The reason there are so many strong opinions here is that the little voice of self-doubt women without kids experience in these kind of relationships is absent in other types of relationships. You don't have to feel like an outsider in your own relationship. Find someone who LOVES YOU as a man should.

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  23. People complaining of bias here need to realize this: single women date lots of different kinds of men. Frankly, some men are more committed to the relationship and a woman's needs than others. Men who are distracted by ex wives simply can't satisfy a woman's needs as well as a man who has no ex hanging around. There is an excitement in those childless relationships that simply isn't present in those with kids. A new woman coming into the picture will usually see an ex wife as a threat...a threat that has no business being in her home. Most childless women don't need her stack of ex-boyfriends hanging around (most men would never tolerate that)...why would she want to date someone who has an outsider/3rd party hanging around all the time, even if it is for the kids. Frankly, she has better options elsewhere...This blog really doesn't take the time to examine how men could better respond to the needs of the new women..I think it exercises the same level of self-absorption (expecting the woman to adjust to his world instead of vice versa) that women experience with dating single dads...hence the negative responses.

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  24. I have been dating for about 3 months, a recently divorced father who has his 14 year old daughter that lives with him and he gets his 8 year old son every other week, on top of that he runs his own company. His typical day is dropping off his kids to school while he goes to work and then dealing with after school activities etc. I would say he was divorced at least 2 years ago, I myself have a 8 year old daughter who lives with me half the week and the other half with her dad. So his week and weekends are always full, and so are mines. We get to see each other at least once per week ( whether dinner and dancing etc.) and communicate via text or phone every other day or two.. WE have a awesome time when we do go out and we really feel comfortable around each other. He also knows that I do not like to be crowed. We are sexually involved at this time. However I need to know, if we do not communicate everyday is that normal?

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  25. Dr iayaryi Help Me To Stop A Divorce And Save My Marriage Today?
    Hello to every one out here, am here to share the unexpected miracle that happened to me three days ago, My name is Edward Chezhyan, i live in TEXAS,USA.and I`m happily married to a lovely and caring wife,with two kids A very big problem occurred in my family seven months ago,between me and my wife so terrible that she took the case to court for a divorce she said that she never wanted to stay with me again,and that she did not love me anymore So she packed out of my house and made me and my children passed through severe pain. I tried all my possible means to get her back,after much begging,but all to no avail and she confirmed it that she has made her decision,and she never wanted to see me again. So on one evening,as i was coming back from work,i met an old friend of mine who asked of my wife So i explained every thing to her,so she told me that the only way i can get my wife back,is to visit a spell caster,because it has really worked for her too So i never believed in spell,but i had no other choice,than to follow her advice. Then she gave me the email address of the spell caster whom she visited. (driayaryi2012@hotmail.com), So the next morning,i sent a mail to the address she gave to me,and the spell caster assured me that i will get my wife back the next day what an amazing statement!! I never believed,so he spoke with me,and told me everything that i need to do. Then the next morning, So surprisingly, my wife who did not call me for the past seven {7}months,gave me a call to inform me that she was coming back So Amazing!! So that was how she came back that same day,with lots of love and joy,and she apologized for her mistake,and for the pain she caused me and my children. Then from that day,our relationship was now stronger than how it were before,by the help of a spell caster . So, was now stronger than how it were before,by the help of a spell caster . if you are in any condition like this,or you have any problem related to "bringing your ex back. So thanks to Dr iayaryi for bringing back my wife,and brought great joy to my family once again.(driayaryi2012@hotmail.com) , Thanks.

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  26. Dr iayaryi Help Me To Stop A Divorce And Save My Marriage Today?
    Hello to every one out here, am here to share the unexpected miracle that happened to me three days ago, My name is Edward Chezhyan, i live in TEXAS,USA.and I`m happily married to a lovely and caring wife,with two kids A very big problem occurred in my family seven months ago,between me and my wife so terrible that she took the case to court for a divorce she said that she never wanted to stay with me again,and that she did not love me anymore So she packed out of my house and made me and my children passed through severe pain. I tried all my possible means to get her back,after much begging,but all to no avail and she confirmed it that she has made her decision,and she never wanted to see me again. So on one evening,as i was coming back from work,i met an old friend of mine who asked of my wife So i explained every thing to her,so she told me that the only way i can get my wife back,is to visit a spell caster,because it has really worked for her too So i never believed in spell,but i had no other choice,than to follow her advice. Then she gave me the email address of the spell caster whom she visited. (driayaryi2012@hotmail.com), So the next morning,i sent a mail to the address she gave to me,and the spell caster assured me that i will get my wife back the next day what an amazing statement!! I never believed,so he spoke with me,and told me everything that i need to do. Then the next morning, So surprisingly, my wife who did not call me for the past seven {7}months,gave me a call to inform me that she was coming back So Amazing!! So that was how she came back that same day,with lots of love and joy,and she apologized for her mistake,and for the pain she caused me and my children. Then from that day,our relationship was now stronger than how it were before,by the help of a spell caster . So, was now stronger than how it were before,by the help of a spell caster . if you are in any condition like this,or you have any problem related to "bringing your ex back. So thanks to Dr iayaryi for bringing back my wife,and brought great joy to my family once again.(driayaryi2012@hotmail.com) , Thanks.

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  27. My wife kicked me out 9 months ago. I was a successful business guy making $100k +, she hired the nastiest attorney she could find, Im now only aloud to see my daughters on weekends while their mother whores herself around town. I don't know if I'll ever be an "upbeatdad" ever again. My marriage was everything, now I've got very little to stick around for. Our legal system is a joke. My advice to single guys is to never get married. 50% of you or more are just going to end up divorced with your hearts broken and children who will be tramatized by the breakup and your ex wife's future slurry behavior.

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  28. My wife kicked me out 9 months ago. I was a successful business guy making $100k +, she hired the nastiest attorney she could find, Im now only aloud to see my daughters on weekends while their mother whores herself around town. I don't know if I'll ever be an "upbeatdad" ever again. My marriage was everything, now I've got very little to stick around for. Our legal system is a joke. My advice to single guys is to never get married. 50% of you or more are just going to end up divorced with your hearts broken and children who will be tramatized by the breakup and your ex wife's future slurry behavior.

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    1. Why did she kick you out? Did you cheat on her? (You shouldn't call a woman a whore. Speaks volumes.) I am sorry you are hurting, and yes, our legal system is a joke and very biased against men. One marriage is never like another, so try to heal.

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  29. I' m Alice Chapman from USA,this is incredible! I still imagine how Dr. Candova brought my husband back to me in just 24 hours.. No one could have ever made me believe that this testimony that I’m about to write now would actually one day be written by me. because I was the world’s biggest skeptic. I never believed in magic spells or anything like that, but I was told by a trustworthy source (a very close co-worker) that Dr. Candova is a very devoted, talented, and gifted spell caster, and after much cajole she got me to visit this email:Candovalovespell@gmail.com .It was one of the most excellent thing I have ever done in my whole life. My love life was in total mess after my husband dumped me for another woman,and I wanted to try harder to make our relationship work, but my husband didn't seem to care. So, with nothing but my pride to lose, I checked it out. I was flabbergasted. This man is for REAL. He did whatever magic he does, and lo and behold – no more than 48 hours later, I had my husband back! It was like a miracle! He suddenly wanted to go to marriage psychotherapy, and we’re doing very, very well right now. and now he has loved me more than ever..Thank you so much Dr. Candova for your Love and for reuniting my family back sir, his Email:Candovalovespell@gmail.com,or Candovalovespell@yahoo.com.,Tel:+2348131612153

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  30. After being in relationship with him for 3 years, he broke up with me, I did everything possible to bring him back but all was in vain, I wanted him back so much because of the love I have for him, I begged him with everything, I made promises but he refused. I explained my problem to someone online and she suggested that I should rather contact a spell caster that could help me cast a spell to bring him back but I am the type that never believed in spell, I had no choice than to try it, I mailed the spell caster, and he told me there was no problem that everything will be okay before three days, that my ex will return to me before three days, he cast the spell and surprisingly in the second day, it was around 4pm. My ex called me, I was so surprised, I answered the call and all he said was that he was so sorry for everything that happened, that he wanted me to return to him, that he loves me so much. I was so happy and went to him, that was how we started living together happily again. Since then, I have made promise that anybody I know that have a relationship problem, I would be of help to such person by referring him or her to the only real and powerful spell caster who helped me with my own problem and who is different from all the other ones out there. Anybody could need the help of the spell caster, lotto, his email is DRAISEDIONSPELLCASTER@OUTLOOK.COM you can email him if you need his assistance in your relationship or any other problem like wining lottery.

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  31. my marriage was in trouble, and to be honest we were on a brink of getting
    divorce my man has been cheating on me for some times by the problem is,
    I just love this excuse of a man too much. We have two beautiful kids and
    I know he still loves me too, the last thing I wanna do is to break up our
    little family. I was nearly at the end of my rope And seriously in need
    of help to enable my family as well. after much weeks luckily I found a
    centre email from user post about Dr galiba spell centre, after few days
    I email him and he settled my marriage and restored my family in good
    position my man promised never to cheat on me again. I'm so much happy
    because trouble in my heart everyday has finally stopped. Here is the centre
    email i found help attach to my post; drgalibaspellcenter@gmail.com

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  32. BE CAREFUL HERE NOBODY CAN HELP YOU HERE OR EVEN SUGGEST HOW YOU CAN GET YOUR EX OR LOVE BACK,ANY TESTIMONIES OF MOST SPELL CASTER HERE MUST BE IGNORE.BECAUSE MOST OF THEM ARE SCAM I MEAN REAL SCAM WHICH I WAS A VICTIM AND I GOT RIPPED OF THOUSANDS OF DOLLARS BECAUSE I WAS SO ANXIOUS TO GET MY WIFE BACK AFTER SHE LEFT ME FOR OVER 2 YEARS WITH MY 7 YEARS OLD SON JERRY,I HAVE APPLIED TO 7 DIFFERENT SPELL CASTER HERE AND ALL TO NO AVAIL THEY ALL ASK FOR SAME THING SEND YOUR NAME YOUR EX NAME ADDRESS AND PICTURE PHONE NUMBER ETC WHICH I DID OVER AND OVER AGAIN AND MOST OF THEM WERE FROM WEST AFRICA UNTIL I SAW A POST ABOUT MAMA ANITA SPELL AND I DECIDED TO GAVE HER MY LAST TRAIL.SHE ASK ME FOUR THINGS MY REAL NAME,MY EX AND MY EX MOTHER NAME AND $380 AND SAID MY EX WILL COME BACK IN 24HOURS, I HAVE PAID OVER $3000 ON SPELL CASTING AND COURIER AND NOTHING HAVE WORK FOR ME AFTER 3 DAYS I WAS THINKING ABOUT HOW MUCH I HAVE LOST SO FAR SO I SAID LET ME GIVE HER A TRY SO I CALLED HER AGAIN AND SEND MY REAL NAME,MY EX AND MY EX MOTHER NAME AND THE $380 BECAUSE I SWEAR IT WAS MY LAST TRY SO I WAS WAITING AS SHE TOLD ME TO WAIT TILL NEXT DAY AND I COULD NOT SLEEP THAT NIGHT BECAUSE I REALLY LOVE MY WIFE AND WANT HER BACK AT 9PMTHAT DAY I SAW MY WIFE ON LINE ON FACE BOOK AND SHE SAID HI AT FIRST I WAS SHOCK BECAUSE SHE NEVER TALK WITH ME FOR THE PAST A YEAR AND 9 MONTH NOW I DID NOT REPLY AGAIN SHE SAID ARE YOU THERE? I QUICKLY REPLY YES AND SHE SAID CAN WE SEE TOMORROW I SAID YES AND SHE WENT OFF-LINE I WAS CONFUSED I TRY TO CHAT HER AGAIN BUT SHE WAS NO MORE ON LINE I COULD NOT SLEEP THAT NIGHT AS I WAS WONDERING WHAT SHE IS GOING TO SAY, BY 7.AM THE NEXT MORNING SHE GAVE ME A MISS CALL I DECIDED NOT TO CALL BACK AS I WAS STILL ON SHOCK AGAIN SHE CALL AND I PICK SHE SAID CAN WE SEE AFTER WORK TODAY I SAID YES SO SHE END THE CALL IMMEDIATELY I GOT OFF WORK SHE CALL ME AND WE MEET AND NOW WE ARE BACK AGAIN I CALL MAMA ANITA THE NEXT DAY THANKING HER FOR WHAT SHE HAS DONE IN FACT I STILL CALL HER AND THANK HER AS MY LIFE WAS NOT COMPLETE WITHOUT MY WIFE PLEASE BE CAREFUL HERE I HAVE BEEN SCAM THOUSANDS OF DOLLARS IF YOU WANT A TRUE LOVE SPELL THEN CONTACT MAMA ANITA (mamaanita.lovespellsolution@gmail.com) or mama.anitaspellcraft@hotmail.com

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  33. Hello
    Rita Carter Thomas From UK. My boyfriend and I have been getting into little arguments which then later escalated. A lot of which are my fault but I never thought I would lose him because we are in love. He told me yesterday that he loves me but is done. That the fights keep hurting him too much. I can’t believe I hurt him like that and would love nothing more than another chance to prove to him and myself that I will cut out my insecurities that I’ve brought into this relationship. I did all i could to end this fight between us us, didn’t work so i had to seek the help of a spell caster who i met online and promised to help me bring him back into my life in 5 days time. i wasn’t really sure about this, but i was really desperate that i had to do all that that the spell caster asked me. it was on the fiftieth day at 3pm on friday, i had a knock on the door and to my greatest surprise, it was my boyfriend, the first thing he said was that he has forgiven me and he will never leave me again, ever. Am so full of joy for what this spell caster have done for me, that i want the world to benefit from this. if you need her help you can reach her on (driayaryi2012@hotmail.com) for any thing on relationship or anything you can think of He is very powerful and so real.

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  34. Hello
    Rita Carter Thomas From UK. My boyfriend and I have been getting into little arguments which then later escalated. A lot of which are my fault but I never thought I would lose him because we are in love. He told me yesterday that he loves me but is done. That the fights keep hurting him too much. I can’t believe I hurt him like that and would love nothing more than another chance to prove to him and myself that I will cut out my insecurities that I’ve brought into this relationship. I did all i could to end this fight between us us, didn’t work so i had to seek the help of a spell caster who i met online and promised to help me bring him back into my life in 5 days time. i wasn’t really sure about this, but i was really desperate that i had to do all that that the spell caster asked me. it was on the fiftieth day at 3pm on friday, i had a knock on the door and to my greatest surprise, it was my boyfriend, the first thing he said was that he has forgiven me and he will never leave me again, ever. Am so full of joy for what this spell caster have done for me, that i want the world to benefit from this. if you need her help you can reach her on (driayaryi2012@hotmail.com) for any thing on relationship or anything you can think of He is very powerful and so real.

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  35. GREAT THANKS TO DR. SAM THAT HELPED SAVED MY MARRIAGE AND HELPED ME GET PREGNANT.

    I'm Stephanie Williams from USA, for over 4 years now of my marriage i have been trying to get pregnant, this almost made my husband to divorce me because my mother in-law was planning to get him another girl, i was always crying everyday because my marital life way going down. My mother in-law made my husband believe that i was the cause of us being able to give birth, i was always crying, my heart was broken into pieces. My husband and I have been seeing a fertility specialist. We have done one IUI with no luck. My husband has a sperm count which goes up and down,the doctor has recommended him taking the Proxeed supplement which he is doing over 3 years with no change in the situation my husband who has low sperm count? It just seems to me that if the sperm are unable to fertilize the egg it will not matter how many are produced. I am was so confused until i contacted this powerful spell caster online who I saw a number of testimonies of how he has help so many of them so I sent DR. SAM a mail and I told him all my sorrows and pain he replied me and ask me not to cry any more that he will help, he sent me some instructions and caution, DR. SAM (the spell caster) performed the ritual rights and I bought some items to complete the rights and he told me to have sex with my husband within 2weeks of doing this I felt dizzy and I went to the doctor and it was confirm that I was pregnant thanks to DR. SAM spell temple now am a mother of a bouncing baby boy and joy has been restored to my marital life and am very happy, no more stress from my mother in-law. If any one needs such help don’t wait all life time to get help in getting pregnant contact DR. SAM now on his personal email : miraclefertilitysolutiontempl1@gmail.com or miraclefertilitysolutiontemple@yahoo.com or through his website: http://miraclefertilityso.wix.com/dr-sam

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  36. After being in relationship with him for 3 years, he broke up with me, I did everything possible to bring him back but all was in vain, I wanted him back so much because of the love I have for him, I begged him with everything, I made promises but he refused. I explained my problem to someone online and she suggested that I should rather contact a spell caster that could help me cast a spell to bring him back but I am the type that never believed in spell, I had no choice than to try it, I mailed the spell caster, and he told me there was no problem that everything will be okay before three days, that my ex will return to me before three days, he cast the spell and surprisingly in the second day, it was around 4pm. My ex called me, I was so surprised, I answered the call and all he said was that he was so sorry for everything that happened, that he wanted me to return to him, that he loves me so much. I was so happy and went to him, that was how we started living together happily again. Since then, I have made promise that anybody I know that have a relationship problem, I would be of help to such person by referring him or her to the only real and powerful spell caster who helped me with my own problem and who is different from all the other ones out there. Anybody could need the help of the spell caster, lotto, his email is DRAISEDIONSPELLCASTER@OUTLOOK.COM you can email him if you need his assistance in your relationship or any other problem like wining lottery.

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  37. I am Susan and i will would love to use this medium to thank and to let the world know there solution home in tense of relationship problems. At first when i read some comment about Dr.Ekpiku on the internet i never believed that this was real but at the same time i decided to give him a trial. I must say that i was surprise that through the help of Dr.Ekpiku that my lover came back to me begging me to accept him back. With this i was convenience that Dr.Ekpiku powers are genie and helpful to humanity. That is the more reason i am going to drop Dr.Ekpiku contact information which are Ekpikuspelltemple@live.com Once again i am very much grateful to Dr.Ekpiku.

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  38. No one could have ever made me believe that the letter I’m about to write would actually one day be written. I was the world’s biggest skeptic. I never believed in magic spells or anything like that, but I was told by a reliable source (a very close co-worker) that Doctor Zack Balo is a very dedicated, gifted, and talented person, and after much “cajoling,” she (my co-worker) got me to visit this website. It was one of the best things I have ever done. My love life was in shambles; I had been through two divorces and was on the brink of a third. I just couldn’t face another divorce, and I wanted to try harder to make our relationship work, but my husband didn’t seem to care. So, with nothing but my pride to lose, I checked it out. I was flabbergasted. This man is for REAL. He did whatever magic he does, and lo and behold – no more than THREE DAYS later, I had my husband back! It was like a miracle! He suddenly wanted to go to marriage counseling, and we’re doing very, very well, on the road to recovery! Love and Many Blessings Back to You... wiseindividualspell@gmail.com and his phone number is +2348078927387.

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  39. I'm Margret from the United States, When i found testimonies about this spell caster Dr Andrew how he helped many people to get their lovers and broken homes back, i contacted him through his email address (drandrewspiritualtemple@gmail.com) because my Husband whom i loved so much with all my heart suddenly changed and turned his back on me and hated me with passion. I was absolutely devastated and desperate to get my husband back. Life without him was a real mess for me and and i wanted a dramatic change and I thought magic could be the solution. After discussing with Dr Andrew he gave me hope that he will restore my relationship back to me. I felt confident that he will actually make my Husband to return home and he did it with some style! It’s fantastic what this great Astrologer have done for me, his help is priceless! I don’t know what I would have done without Dr Andrew,this man does his job so well he is organized and highly professional, i believe he is the best spell caster i can count on when it comes to all kinds of spell. if you need help, contact him (drandrewspiritualtemple@gmail.com) I assure you things will turn around for good..

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  40. I'm Margret from the United States, When i found testimonies about this spell caster Dr Andrew how he helped many people to get their lovers and broken homes back, i contacted him through his email address (drandrewspiritualtemple@gmail.com) because my Husband whom i loved so much with all my heart suddenly changed and turned his back on me and hated me with passion. I was absolutely devastated and desperate to get my husband back. Life without him was a real mess for me and and i wanted a dramatic change and I thought magic could be the solution. After discussing with Dr Andrew he gave me hope that he will restore my relationship back to me. I felt confident that he will actually make my Husband to return home and he did it with some style! It’s fantastic what this great Astrologer have done for me, his help is priceless! I don’t know what I would have done without Dr Andrew,this man does his job so well he is organized and highly professional, i believe he is the best spell caster i can count on when it comes to all kinds of spell. if you need help, contact him (drandrewspiritualtemple@gmail.com) I assure you things will turn around for good..

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  41. I have a husband who cheats on me, drinks and as his wife he could hardly spend time or listen to me, i and my husband Mark are both from the United state. I have tried all means to stop him from this ugly attitude but he never changed, he teats me like a slave, he stop loving me the way he used to and he now always come home late at night. I tried all means to make him love me back and change for good and i have also talked to his families concerning his attitude. I just got to know of Priest Ajigar recently that he helps a lot of persons to restore their broken marriage, i asked Priest Ajigar if there is any way i could make him love me again and make him a good responsible husband. He promised to help me out and in just 4 days after the spell was done he started loving me again and now he is fully back to his right senses, if you are looking for a genuine spell caster to help you with your marriage problems, i will advice you email Priest Ajigar on his email: priestajigarspells@live.com his spells works, is powerful and a genuine spell caster.

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  42. Thanks to Priest Abasi for bringing my husband back to me.After 9 years in marriage with my hubby with 3kids, my husband started going out with other ladies and showed me cold love,on several occasions he threatens to divorce me if i dare question him about his affair with other Ladies,i was totally devastated and confused an old friend of mine told me a spell caster called PRIEST ABASI who help many people with their relationship,marriage,health,financial problems with his great spell,at first i doubted him if such thing ever exists but i decided to give it a try,i contacted him through his email,he told me not to be depressed that everything will be fine,i was relieved,he helped me cast a return spell within 48 hours my husband came back knocking and started apologizing,i still love him very much,and i forgave him and watched him carefully,now he has stopped going out with ladies and he his with me for good and for real.
    contact this great spell caster for your relationship or marriage and all kinds of problem you find difficult to resolve and he will put an everlasting solution to it. thanks to the internet which seems to have made everything more easy for me to get his contact details at first when my lover left me and didn't have any idea on how to restore my relationship, but through the internet i was able to get the details of this powerful spell, contact High Priest Abasi now on highpriestabasispelltemple@hotmail.com.

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  43. Is my gratitude and honor to say a big thanks to a man with truth and do as he promise plz every one on this site should join me and thank Dr happy for the glory and happiness he gave to me i break up with my husband 2 week back and i was down and do not know what to do until i saw a post about this spell caster Dr happy who i explain my situation to, and them he said to me cry not my daughter for what you seek for is right here in my temple he gave me hope when i have no hope to to my greatest notice, he did the spell for me and my husband was back 3 days after the spell plz if you need any help my advise is for you all go to Dr happy coz he is the best of all contact him via happylovespell2@gmail.com

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  44. It just occur to me that i have not done the right thing since when my husband came back to me, I am Mayer from United Kingdom, I am on this blog to give thanks to whom it deserve. Some couples of weeks ago my life was in a terrible shape because my husband left me and i never believe that i was going to get him back. But through the help of this powerful spell caster called Dr.Ogudugu my life is now in a joyful mood, I must recommend the services of Dr.Ogudugu to any one out there that they should contact Dr.Ogudugu through his email: GREATOGUDUGU@GMAIL.COM because through Dr.Ogudugu assistance, my marriage was restored.

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  45. Hello, is good I inform all the men and guys out there, that sometime we all make mistakes in our relationship and made our relationship to be broken and is also our responsibility to make it work by seeking for solution to it, I'm very happy today to tell you little of my relationship problem, i cheated once on my wife and she caught me and she was ready to end our marriage because i truly love her i quickly seek for solution to stop her that is when i came across Dr.Ekpen temple who has help so many people restore their broken marriage and relationship i also contact him today my marriage is restored, I'm going to drop his contact so that does having the same issues can contact him for solution on (ekpentemple@gmail.com) or +2347050270218.

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  46. Hello friends..i never believe and tough that me and my ex husband could ever come back and live life happily again after been divorce for years..I never believed in Love Spells or Magics until I met this special spell caster when, i contacted this man called .Dr Okeyto. me and my husband was going on a divorce..i thought it was a joke and when my husband came back from work he tender to me a divorce letter and he packed all my properties away from is house..i ran mad and i tried all i could to have him back because i love him and i really want him back but all did not work out..i was lonely for almost 5years.So when i told the spell caster what happened he said he will help me and he asked for his full name and his picture..i gave him that..At first i was skeptical but i have to gave him a try cos i have tried so many spell casters and there was no solution.so when he finished with the readings,he got back to me that him is with a woman and that woman is the reason why he left me.The spell caster said he will help me with a power spell that will surely bring him back.but i never believe all this.he told me i will see a positive result within 24 hour..24 hour later after the spell
    has been cast,him called me himself and came to me apologizing and him told
    me he will come back to me..I cant believe this,it was like a dream cos i
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    was no solution..The spell caster is so powerful and after that he helped me
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    11. heal barrenness in women and disturbing menstruation
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    ..Thanks to you all

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